Which is a shame, because there are plenty of other hot spots you can touch, tickle, and lick to increase her pleasure and yours. Consider this.
ADVICE: It would be so much better if I could see my partner was responding to my touch.
Has the mountain turned into a molehill? There is nothing more frustrating for a woman than to have the physiological motivation toward sex.
You may be a really great lover and you might have a rock'n sex life. You might be committed to co-creating this with your present or future partner. Wherever.